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Last week, I asked the Salesgirl Social subscribers who are 40 years and older what they’d share with the younger generation of women. Something they wished they’d known sooner.

The question was inspired by this Twitter thread, which had some really insightful replies. But I can only trust @loveydovey57 so much. I trust the 40 and older salesgirls with my life.

I couldn’t wait to hear what you had to say, and you didn’t let us down.

Here’s what they (YOU) said:

• Since I'm in the 40 and over crowd, one thing you don't realize will hit you hard is... Birth control. If you spend years on synthetic birth control, prepare to deal with the consequences later. Hormonal imbalance, weird iron issues, low copper, and general overall havoc might be coming your way. (Ask me how I know.) 

• Say NO on purpose more… so you can set apart your time getting ready to say YES to purpose work! And be relentless about ditching comparisons.

• Sometimes less really is more... And you can say “no.”

• Time moves faster than you can even believe. I don’t care what anyone thinks of me now, but I would’ve not cared a lot sooner if i could do it over. 

• This is all good stuff. I'm 52 and would say sunscreen, for sure, but also I would have stopped drinking earlier. I've been sober for about seven years now and it's the best decision I've ever made for my body, my relationships, how my clothes fit, how I feel about myself, and the sleep is incredible. 

• Don’t listen to them about your 20s and 30s… Your 40s are the best years of your life.

• Learn about menopause before it gets here! There’s no need to suffer. And therapy.

• I’d say no a lot more often. I spent a lot of years doing things I didn’t enjoy because I thought I couldn’t say no or let someone down. What I realize now is that it’s selfish to say yes to things that aren’t meant for you… you’re taking the opportunity from the person who DOES feel pulled to do it.

• Stay away from drama, don’t get sucked into it no matter what the cost. When people think I’m weird for rejecting something commonplace like drama, I know I’m on the right track. 

• There's totally a way to be the boss of Peri-Menopause and it starts in 20's and 30's. When you eat real food and sculpt lean muscle, you get ahead of that "scary" peri and you have peaceful hormones. If it comes from the ground or has a mother, that's real food and you need to eat MORE of it than you think you need to THRIVE and feel vibrant with hormones. Most women are chronically under-eating and thus wrecking their hormones...to then play catch up in 40's. You GET TO eat... so go load up on the good stuff. Your 40's self with great skin and peaceful periods will thank you. Thanks for giving space for us 40's gals who love our 20's and 30's gals. 

• Say no more and say yes more. Idk how to explain it but you’ll know. 

• Your spouse is one of the most important decisions you’ll make it in your life. Take the time to get it right - you need each other way beyond the fun dating stuff as you age. Thank you for giving us a place to say this!

• I would’ve stopped drinking sooner!! Matter of fact I would’ve never done it at all. The fleeting enjoyment was a big price to pay for what it did to my body as I aged. 12 years sober!

• I tell my kids I would dance everywhere and not care what people thought… they’re not even looking at you anyway.

• Some things you really just won’t understand with advice or a heads up… Time will reveal it all to you like it has for us who are here in our 60s now ❤️ 

Now which one of you wants come with me to get one or all of these tattooed?

So thankful for the generation of women who go before us, blazing the path. Thank you all for sharing your wisdom.

Dance everywhere.

Xo, The Salesgirls