Toxic Positivity Isn't the Answer but This Is

Have you ever been accused of being overly optimistic?

I haven’t. 

In fact, I’m usually the one wondering how it must feel to live in Mayberry. 

Do they make those rose colored glasses in MY size? No they don’t because- 

LIFE IS NOT A HALLMARK MOVIE! WAKE UP AUNT BEE!

I’m not proud, but I’m honest. 

And I tell you that, to tell you this: I’ve changed my mind.

(You can absolutely do that, you know that right? Change your mind, I mean.)

Was I literally mad that everyone else had the nerve to NOT be in a bad mood?

What is the actual point?

One quote pushed me over the jagged edge of pessimism and into the soft, plush cloud of positivity. 

There is nothing to lose by entertaining the idea of the best result possible.

Except years off your life, honestly.

But, wait! Toxic positivity!

I hear you. 

Toxic positivity means the pressure to only display positive emotions, suppressing any negative emotions, feelings, reactions, or experiences.

I’m not suggesting you suppress anything. It is absolutely critical to be aware and to process them.

I am asking you to do that for yourself, through your own personal work. Not with people who are not equipped or able to support you in your negative emotions.

Your spouse, your therapist, your mentor, your ride or die bestie… 

If you need to complain, come home and let it out with those select few.

Your co-worker Julie at the coffee machine in the break room probably isn’t equipped. 

The cashier at Walmart who is scanning slowly when you have somewhere to be is probably not equipped. 

You don’t have to suffer in silence and you certainly aren’t expected to not suffer at all.

But, in order to leave a lasting impression and be generally happier and healthier, you must adopt the habit of being composed and embodying the culture of joy and positively amongst the general public. 

Positivity is only toxic if you let it be toxic.

Bonus for the Salesgirls: Kindness is the easiest way to generate curiosity. 👀

The goal, now and forever: “Whatever she has, I want some of it.”

Xo, The Salesgirls